Body Blog Post #5

As I come to my final blog post, I began to reflect on what it means to be feminine and its correlation to my practice of wearing dresses or skirts, which is mostly exclusive to females even until today.

Gender is a social construct. But does wearing a dress automatically mean one is behaving femininely? What does it mean to be feminine? Adhering to female exclusive fashion? Being demure and gentle? And even if we fulfill all these qualifications that society classify as feminine, does it mean we are automatically becoming womanly? Gender is the social and cultural perception that society has on us, but being a member of society ourselves, shouldn't we also have a say on who we are? Our actions should not be gendered and used to draw inference as to whether we are behaving in accordance with our biological sex. 

Further, perhaps we should get to decide what is feminine and what is masculine. One should not be expected to conform to strictly either category with the two gendered way of behavior mutually exclusive as gender is a broad spectrum. One can be feminine if she wears pants. One can be feminine if she raise her voice and stand up for what is right.  We should not define someone's gender by the way they behave to the outside world, but by what they identify as in their own proclamation. (233 words)



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